First Date Ideas For Over 80s

A first date coming up? How lekker. At our age the best outings are unhurried, close to a comfortable seat and never far from a pot of tea and a bathroom. Here are six ideas that suit an 80 year old pace, whether you are in Bloemfontein or Ballito.

1. A Leisurely Lunch

Lunch is the clever choice. It is quieter, the light is better and nobody has to drive home after dark. A farm stall restaurant, a tea garden or the restaurant at your local golf club all work well. Ask for a table in the shade and away from the kitchen, and take your time over the malva pudding.

2. A Gentle Stroll

A short, flat walk makes conversation easier, because you are side by side instead of face to face. A beachfront promenade, a park with plenty of benches or a stroll round a shopping centre on a hot day is ideal. Go early before the heat, wear a good hat and take water.

3. A Bit Of Local History

Most towns have a museum, a historic church or an old Cape Dutch homestead that locals rarely get round to visiting. They tend to be quiet, have seating and are full of conversation starters. Many offer a pensioner rate, so it is always worth asking at the door.

4. A Botanical Garden

Kirstenbosch, the Walter Sisulu National Botanical Garden or the Durban Botanic Gardens all make a beautiful setting. Kirstenbosch even runs a little guided golf cart tour for those who prefer not to walk too far. Benches are everywhere, and a tea room is never far off.

5. A Museum Or Gallery

Museums and galleries are cool in summer, warm in winter and usually have lifts and seating. A favourite painting, an old photograph of your home town or a display about the railways can start stories that last all afternoon.

6. High Tea

A proper high tea is a treat at any age: dainty sandwiches, scones, koeksisters and a pot of tea for two. Hotels, tea gardens and wine estates all serve their own version. Book ahead and mention any dietary needs.

Wherever you go, meet somewhere public, let a friend or family member know your plans, and arrange your own way there and home again. Most of all, enjoy each other's company.